Every state has different terms for what happens when you become incapacitated or die, especially when you have a blended family. One of the most common problems that arises of having a blended family is that the deceased’s children from a prior marriage and the surviving spouse end up in conflict. Unless a comprehensive plan has been created. That way, not only do the people you love get the assets that you want them to receive, but you may also be saving them for years of legal conflict.